Love is a word that takes on a different meaning for each of us.  I find love baffling because it is impossible for me to give something I never had and love certainly falls in this category.  I think this comes from my early experiences with significant adults in my childhood.  I grew up with a big black hole where love should have lived and so I just don't know how to attach an appropriate feeling to the word.  Today I look from the "outside" at couples in successful relationships sharing a concept that I don't understand.  This doesn't mean that I am incapable of softer feelings of compassion or kindness but it does mean that I avoid any situation that makes me vulnerable in the love category.  So on days like Valentine's Day where the focus is on the wonderful feelings among us, I tend to enjoy the chocolates best.